You will need to spend a full year outside of the U.S. to reset the H-1B "clock" before you can apply for a new H-1B visa. You and your employer should consult with an immigration attorney to determine whether you have any other options.
My colleagues have given excellent advice. Here's my two cents:
1 - Never, ever, ever ask for legal advice from USCIS. Seriously. Don't. Lives have been ruined this way.
2 - Don't share such specific case facts and your email on a public website. Instead, schedule a consultation with an attorney in private.
I agree with Mr. Capriotti. While you could file a Federal court suit, it will be expensive and lengthy. The court is unlikely to intervene with the consular process.
You could contact your congressman for assistance or work with an immigration attorney. Depending on the reasons for the administrative processing, you may still be in in for a wait. Good luck!
You had an affirmative asylum application, and it was denied. You get another chance to bring your asylum claim before the Immigration Judge. Hire an immigration attorney if you want to have a chance at winning your case.
Even if you are not relying on your wife's income, you are still required to provide her tax information. If you still have questions about your case, you really need to call your attorney. He knows more about the facts of your case than anyone you will find in an online forum.