It is unlawful to obey a reasonable request from a law enforcement officer. In a bar, the officer is well within his rights to ask for ID to establish your legal presence in the premises. If you were indeed driving the same answer applies.
This is what car insurance is for. Rental places give the renter the option to get insurance coverage, otherwise the car renters regular insurance should cover it. If you did not personally do it you are not responsible. If they think your gardener did it, they need to go after your gardener.
This is a multi-layered question that has some different areas of law represented. The big issues I see are 1. a claim for waste, 2. Fiduciary Duties, and possibly 3. conversion of assets
The link below is pretty good on Waste law. When a person removes or destroys property, even if it is to better the property, they are responsible for repair or restoration of it. This generally applies to people who have concurrent interests in the property or in one person who has a current interest...
For future reference... and hopefully this will not happen to you again... If the driver of the other vehicle refuses to provide standard information, have the police come out to make a report, and if they leave prior to the police getting there that is hit and run.
Report him to the bar for what? If someone offered you $10 to dig a ditch for them and you refused because it was not financially rewarding for you, would you be in the wrong?
Find another attorney and be willing to pay them their hourly fee to make it worthwhile, when you end up losing money on it, only blame yourself.
Note that it says "OR" the other provisions of the law cited about dependent children being defined. That definition probably includes turning 18. Note however, that if there are any arrears, those are still owed even after the child is no longer a dependent.