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  • What rights do I have

    Her mother is a huge problem and they would not let me participate in doctor appointments

    Vanessa’s Answer

    You must look at your current custody orders/parenting plan to see what your rights and responsibilities are. An attorney can help you interpret these documents, or get them in place if no orders exist. If the other parent is violating the current orders, you can ask the Court for a finding of contempt. Best wishes.

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  • Adoption

    Can my boyfriend of 2 years adopt my children if the biological father agrees

    Vanessa’s Answer

    No. To adopt in Nebraska, you must be legally married and have all resided together for at least six months to file this type of adoption. Also, there are background checks required. If the biological father agrees, a stepparent adoption will be much simpler, but he cannot adopt unless you are married. Best wishes.

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  • Where can I find the legal form needed to make a motion to permanently move out of state with my children?

    I live in Nebraska, and these forms are not available on our supreme court self-help website. Can you tell me exactly what the form title or DC coding might be? Also, I have sole custody and can show just cause for the move, as well as the fact ...

    Vanessa’s Answer

    There is no legal form. Removal cases are modification cases and are very fact specific. The Farnsworth case sets forth the nine factors you must address for the Court to receive an order allowing you to move from the jurisdiction over the other parent's objection. These are complicated and involved cases and really do require the assistance of an attorney. Best wishes.

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  • How do i go about stop child support or custody for my kids that the mom is not allowing me to see?

    i have been paying child support on three kids , two i dont think are even mine the court has raised my child support to the point i cant make it by i have done the calculations and they come no where near the amount have come up with i have asked...

    Vanessa’s Answer

    Parenting time and support are very different issues. You cannot reduce support because the other parent is interfering with visitation. You can ask to modify if there has been a material and substantial change in circumstances (related to finances) outside of the contemplation of the parties at the time the initial order was entered, that has continued for at least three months and is expected to continue for at least six months more. If DHHS/Child Support Enforcement is involved, you may be able to make application for modification through them, but the process is slow. Best wishes.

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  • Can my 16 year old sister be emancipated in Nebraska?

    My sister is 16 years old and lives in the state of Nebraska. She wants to be emancipated from our mother because they are moving to a new town and my sister doesn't want to go. My mother also has a long history of alcoholism and abuse. My sister ...

    Vanessa’s Answer

    Your mother can sign a temporary delegation of parental powers to allow your sister to stay. Emancipation doesn't really exist as a cause of action in Nebraska, but can very rarely be accomplished through a declaratory judgment. Best wishes.

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  • Do I have the right to check the well being of my child?

    The Custodial Parent is in a recovery facility and has a history of this. She the C.P. has her boyfriend who lives there and a neighbor check in on my Female child (13yrs) and another Male that is 9yrs. (not mine). I was told not to check on the c...

    Vanessa’s Answer

    If the custodial parent is in a treatment facility, you should be able to file for and get temporary custody of your child while custodial parent is not available. These children are far too young to be living alone and failure to intervene may be child neglect on your part. You need to act right away.

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  • My ex has taken my child for visitation, he was to return her by Saturday at 6 pm, he left and will not return her

    his visitation was reduced do to boundary issues, and now I don't know where she is, or when will he return her

    Vanessa’s Answer

    You should contact an attorney about filing for contempt or a warrant for return of the child, depending on your local practice. Best wishes that she is found soon!

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  • How easy is it to file contempt of court on an ex husband who won't pay child support or daycare costs?

    My ex knows that his wages would be garnished if he worked for an employer so he is self employed so that the child enforcement people can't take his wages. He doesn't have insurance or pay his half of the daycare cost for the child.

    Vanessa’s Answer

    If he hasn't paid as agreed and has the means to do so (or nothing has changed since he was ordered to do so) you can file for contempt and ask for a purge plan plus attorney's fees. You should at least visit with an experienced family law attorney about your rights and responsibilities. Best wishes!

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  • Can my parents keep all my things if I move out?

    I am 20 years old and I would like to move out of my parents home. If i do so, they say that I can't take anything besides the clothes on my back. Can they legally do that or could I take my things with me without getting in trouble?

    Vanessa’s Answer

    At 20 you are at the age of majority. It depends heavily on what you consider "yours"...if your parents purchased household things they allowed you to use vs. a gift for you personally. Best wishes!

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  • Summer Visitation schedule was not submitted as court ordered by May 1st. Father is now demanding dates. What can I do?

    Father did not submit his requested summer visitation certified letter by May 1st as court ordered, and now is demanding to have the kids when he wants them with no regard to plans the children have made after May 1st. I have made sure that there ...

    Vanessa’s Answer

    You cannot prospectively enforce an order - you have to wait for a violation. Review your parenting plan carefully. If you do not have a provision that states he waives parenting time or you select the dates if he fails to give notice, then you may want to visit with a local attorney about your options, including having him held in contempt for failure to provide notice or filing a motion to clarify summer visitation dates with the Court. Best wishes!

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