If you hire an attorney to handle your ticket it is likely that they can get the ticket taken care of without you appearing at all. Your likely options would be either a diversion or an amendment to a nonmoving violation so it won't affect your insurance. If you did choose to take the case to trial would would have to appear. Best of luck.
I agree with Attorney Lewis, you can try to fight the case to get a Not Guilty verdict, or attempt to negotiate with the Prosecutor to come to an agreeable arrangement. I would highly recommend consulting with a local attorney in your area though.
Attorney Wigell hit this right on the head. You cannot choose to drop the charges at this point. Now it is completely up to the prosecutor. You can express your opinion that you do not want the case to move forwards, sometimes that will be enough. However, often times you will need to work with your husband's defense attorney, or hire an attorney on your own. Best of luck.
I agree with both other attorneys that have answered this question. MIP is a Class C misdemeanor meaning it is very low on the totem pole so to speak. As Attorney Robinson said your biggest concern should be the license suspension. Since you haven't been in trouble before it is likely you can do a diversion on an offense like this, but it is best to seek local counsel.
The mere accusation isn't enough to revoke your probation. You are entitled to a hearing on the matter if the prosecutor's office does choose to file a motion to revoke your probation. I recommend contacting a local attorney immediately.