I'm sorry your daughter is treating you so badly. You need to consult with an attorney who deals in both estate planning and elder law so that you will know what documents need to be drafted and what steps you need to take to protect yourself.
If you and your child's father agree on the terms of your parenting arrangement, the cost of having an attorney prepare all of the documents and guide your matter through the courts should not be unreasonably expensive. The "something legal" that you need to have an enforceable parenting arrangement is a paternity judgment - which is signed by a judge. Getting to the judgment involves a court action called a paternity action. Just having a document signed by yourself and your child's father...
If what you want to do is have both your parenting rights and those of your child's father set by the court, you will need to start a paternity action.
Missouri has legal and physical custody. Physical custody is self-emplanatory. Legal custody involves a parent's right to be involved in decision making - for example, in making medical decision, involvement in school and extracurricular activities and communicating with the child.
The preference that is set out by the legislature is for...
Unfortunately, the current rule in Missouri is that you are the parent filing for a change in child support, you do not get to have an adjustment for other children in your household. You may want to consult with a family law attorney, however, to see if your child support amount can be reduced, even not taking the children you have with your present wife into consideration.
The bank doesn't need to take her off the note for you to still be liable for payments under your reaffirmation. She, however, is not liable after her bankruptcy unless she also reaffirmed (which is not likely)
Not necessarily, although if you are the complaining witness and don't show up for court, it is likely that the defense attorney will ask the court for a dismissal - and it is likely that the court will dismiss unless there are other witnesses the prosecutor can call to make his case.
First of all, there is no such thing in Missouri as "full custody." In Missouri we have sole legal custody and sole physical custody. The procedure is to file an action in paternity. While you can do that yourself if you wish, it will be easier for you to hire an attorney to help you - either on a full representation basis or on a limited representation basis.
First you need to get a copy of the judgment from the clerk of the court so you know what visitation you are supposed to be getting and what kind of involvement in your child's life you're supposed to be getting. With that, you can then contact your ex and ask for your rights - or if he keeps not answering your calls, you can go back to the court and file a Family Access Motion. I have included a link below to the Supreme Court's self-representation site for the Family Access Motion. Good luck.