Contact a probate attorney in your geographic area. If you need to file anything in probate court, a knowledgeable attorney should be able to help. Check for attorneys through Avvo or the referral service of the Missouri Bar at www.mobar.org.
You can consult with an employment attorney. You can file a charge of sex-based discrimination. (if you find an attorney's posting helpful, please remember to indicate it on AVVO.)
According to the EEOC's website,
If you believe that you have been discriminated against at work because of your race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information, you can file a Charge of Discrimination. All of the laws enforced by EEOC,...
If you qualified, you could have followed this statute:
Tenant may deduct cost of repair of rental premises from rent, when--limitations.
441.234. 1. The provisions of this section shall apply only to a tenant who has lawfully resided on the rental premises for six consecutive months, has paid all rent and charges due the landlord during that time, and did not during that time receive any written notice from the landlord of any violation of any lease provision or house rule, which violation...
If you weren't a party to the mortgage, you probably are not part of the class. The settlement paperwork should define the class members, however. If you somehow are a member of the class, there should be or should have been an opt-out date. If you cannot figure it out, consult with an attorney.
You can sue in small claims court. Below is part of the relevant statute. Please consider marking this as a Best Answer if it helps.
Security deposits, limitation--return of deposit or notice of damages, when--withholding deposit, when--tenant's right to damages--security deposit defined.
535.300. 1. A landlord may not demand or receive a security deposit in excess of two months' rent.
2. Within thirty days after the date of termination of the tenancy, the landlord shall:
(1) Return the...
The elements of defamation in Missouri are: 1) publication, 2) of a defamatory statement, 3) that identifies the plaintiff, 4) that is false, 5) that is published with the requisite degree of fault, and 6) damages the plaintiff's reputation. Nazeri v. Missouri Valley College, 860 S.W.2d 303 (Mo. banc 1993).
While I don't blame you for being upset, you'll have to determine whether it is worth spending lots of money litigating the matter. It might be worth paying an attorney a little...