Attorney is only licensed in Illinois. Please seek advice from Jacksonville attorney if your jurisdiction is in Jacksonville. You said, "Ex." Are you divorced, if not then you should ask this question of an attorney in a private forum.
In Illinois, where I am solely licensed, the judge may order what is equitable for the circumstances for the situation. So this could very well be the scenario in your case. Consult with an attorney from California.
I am solely lisenced in Illinois, you should get a domestic relations attorney to appear with your husband at the hearing if the first order was an emergency on not a plenary order (for a longer period of time. You should get an attorney and file your own petition.
I am only licensed in Illinois, but typically the divorce judge will allow visitation (at least monitored/supervised) for your biological father. These are the standards in illinois, but you should consult an attorney in your jurisdiction.
I am licensed only in Illinois. So please seek the advice of an Arizona attorney to file an emergency motion for contribution of household expenses. His conduct does not resemble that of a parent that is interested in the best interest of his child.
I am not licensed in Texas, if that is your jurisdiction. However, get a transcript of the proceedings, file what we in Illinois call a motion to reconsider with the aid of an attorney, and then file an appeal if you feel there was an abuse of discretion.