What would organized religion be without hyper-technical restrictions enforced by an unwavering hierarchy? No shellfish, no cattle grazing with other kinds of cattle, no hair braiding, and absolutely no headstones 2" too short.
Write to Cardinal George. Try to get an agreement before taking matters into your own hands.
Failing that, if they come after you, remind them of the Church's robust history of recognizing wrongdoing, and working with the law to seek justice for wrongdoers....
There are a few things you can do in an effort to derail the divorce train . . . filing a counter-petition is not one of them. Neither is filing an Answer. You need legal help. You should call an attorney who can help you fight the divorce. Below is a link to an article you might find helpful.
First, Your problem is only 16% of the ruling and, by definition, it's only temporary, so let's not get too worked up and talk appeals. The child support award (roughly 2/3 of the award) is nearly always determined as a function of your income without much consideration of your wife's financial standing. Second, you don't reveal other factors that very well may have warranted the judge's ruling notwithstanding your wife's non-compliance with discovery (for example, if you packed up and moved...
"Entitled?" No; you're not "entitled" to anything.
Presumably the interest is marital property so, you should be able to take some share of it: maybe half, maybe more, maybe less.
You need an attorney.
Below are a few links you'll find informative.
When you proceed pro se -- as your own attorney -- you proceed as your own attorney. It seems you're at a point where you can no longer do that effectively.
You may want to consider talking with some attorney who offer "unbundled" legal services under the new Illinois RPC. You should probably make some phone calls to a few attorneys.
You should ask this question of your state legislator. For a more in-depth, philosophic debate, you should attend law school. This online service is a poor forum for what you seek.
Oh, by the way: if you've been charged with either offense, you should hire a lawyer.