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Wes Cowell

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  • Is the non custodial parent entitled a third of the time with their child(ren) under the new laws coming into effect in 2016?

    I have heard, but cannot locate any articles to support this statement, that the non custodial parent is entitled one third parenting time with their child(ren). Is this true?

    Wes’s Answer

    No, there is no such provision in the new law. The links below will help.

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  • How is back child support given to the CP? Lump sum or in payments?

    I have a 19mo son. I put his father on child support since he was the age of 1 month. They finally served him papers in another state a few weeks ago. will I get back paid since the time I put in paperwork and if do how much and how will it be...

    Wes’s Answer

    You may not get ANY retroactive support. You should work with a lawyer.

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  • My wife and I are separated and I told her I wanted to walk the children 1st day of school. She denied me

    I text her to advise I was outside on the 1st day of school. My neighbor walked up to speak, I met him in my driveway. My back was to the house she pulled out of garage I looked over my shoulder and saw the truck in reverse. I looked back at my ne...

    Wes’s Answer

    If you haven't hired a lawyer and gone to court to straighten out how to handle issues like this with the kids, you're stuck with your situation. You may ask her to let you take the kids and she can say "no." You can show up at school and pick them up early and she can get mad about it. You two are left to your own devices.

    You should talk with an attorney.

    The links, below, will help.

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  • Will the State of Illinois Grant full custody to my sons father?

    My sons father went back to work in November of last year, I knew he wouldn't give me as much support as the state would so I filed for child support. He is a great father but he does just enough to keep our 9 year old son happy. He does small thi...

    Wes’s Answer

    The State doesn't grant custody -- it's not up to the state. You need a lawyer.

    There is no such thing as "full custody" and, after 1/1/16, there won't even be "custody" anymore. You need a lawyer.

    He CAN take you to court and he CAN ask to modify custody. You need a lawyer.

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  • Can I use evidence on social media to prove to the courts that my ex is lying?

    I filed for divorce and my ex husband never showed up to any hearing, therefore the judge awarded me everything. I filed a contempt of court order siting that he did not follow order to pay the lawyer fees in the time allotted to him. A day or so ...

    Wes’s Answer

    Who cares what his current wife says. He has kids from his first marriage and must pay child support. His child support obligation is a function of his income. He may seek a deviation from the statutory guidelines.

    It sounds like you had a lawyer during the divorce but, now, are without a lawyer. You should work with a lawyer. There are plenty of ways to afford a lawyer.

    The links below will help.

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  • Can child support be used to help pay for rent, electric bills and other living expenses.

    I receive child support and I'm disable so I can't work.

    Wes’s Answer

    Of course. Child support can be used for anything. The recipient has no obligation to account for how child support funds are spent.

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  • Am i obligated to drop everything for the bio mom's phone calls to children?

    My step children's mother has stated I am not allowed to contact her in any way shape or form, that all communication is to be through their father, and I am ok with that completely. It is their agreement and if that is what she wants, it's ok wit...

    Wes’s Answer

    This isn't your problem. You may ignore Mom's requests / demands. Suggest to your husband that he speak with his attorney. If he doesn't have an attorney, tell him to hire one.

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  • Rehab

    Does going to rehab look bad before a custody hearing or does it look good?

    Wes’s Answer

    It depends on a million facts that you've not shared.

    Look into Dr. Bruce Alexander's work ("Rat Park") before heading off to rehab. I suggest you also read "Chasing the Scream" by Johann Hari -- especially the chapter titled "Batman's Bad Call." The links below, will help.

    Hire a lawyer and talk about whether rehab is right in your situation.

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  • Divorced after Greencard and getting married again to my home country

    Hi I got divorced in jan 2015, and I got my GC by my ex-spouse...who applied for me, I have a 10 year Greencard, can apply for citizenship in early 2017. My questions are 1. Can i get married again and bring my spouse from m...

    Wes’s Answer

    Yours is a question that sounds in immigration law. I have changed the topic for you to help generate better answers. Hire an attorney for sound legal advice. Good luck.

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  • Easy Divorce

    Married in Ohio - 23 years - kids grown - no property or assets - no joint debts - I moved to Illinois December 2014 - He lives in Ohio - amicable - want easiest/cheapest divorce preferably before tax time for 2015 - can I file in Illinois or does...

    Wes’s Answer

    You may file in Illinois. If you both cooperate and do what needs to be done, you should be able to have it done by Labor Day. The link below, will help.

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