My experience is that a lawyer almost always wins over a pro se litigant. In fact, it rarely gets to the win/loss conclusion. An experience attorney is usually able to knock out pro se pleadings and keep them so tied up in legal technicalities that they soon give up and forget about going back to court.
Don't let that happen to you. You're probably only looking at a few hundred dollars in legal fees to get the help you need.
Finally, regardless of how much money she makes (even...
Generally, there is no retroactive relief when it comes to child support. Don't be so sure, however, that your papers DON'T require you to notify him of an increase in your income.
Your new husband (congratulations!) should be off Scot-free. His only risk would arise if he supported you; for example, is you stopped working and lived the life of a stay-at-home housewife.
The cases all say that HOMES purchased in contemplation of marriage MAY end up being classified as marital property. I know of no case that says furniture purchased in contemplation of marriage may be considered marital property.
It was perfectly proper to leave the lines blank in the original order and it doesn't bar you from collecting an arrearage. The forms that are used include this "Delinquency" language thanks to a law that dates back to 1997. It was supposed to be self-executing -- so when an obligor was laid off and fell behind, then was re-hired and started playing catch-up on his support, everyone knew exactly how much to budget for the arrearage to be caught up.
In the current economy, nothing is...
Your "friend" is entitled to all of the property that your "friend" owns. Beyond that, your "friend" can expect nothing. No "standard of living," no retirement, no car, no truck, no household items, no nothing.
It probably would have been better for her had they married.
Yes, judges may modify their own judgments on thier own motions (in latin lawyer-speak we say "sua sponte"). It's not uncommon.
You say it's "obvious" that her attorney contacted the judge. What makes you think so? On what facts do you base your suspicion that your former wife's attorney has had ex parte communication with the judge?
Finally, do you have some objection to paying the fees you were ordered to pay? Were you planning on discharging the fees in bankruptcy?