This will probably be teh very first question to be answered by the attorney you meet with to prepare your will(s). If you don't want ot pay an attorney, and intend to prepare your will(s) yourselves using an online service, you can try asking them for advice, but I know of only one such service that employs attorneys to answer legal questions free-of-charge.
You're probably better off meeting with an attorney face-to-face.
Unless you've already established paternity, yes, you'll have to go along with his request about hte DNA test.
The better course, here, would be to establish paternity with the biological father and use that ruling to defeat the obsessed one's claim. Assuming you've already established paternity with the real father, just point out that fact to the court. If you've not yet established paternity with the biological father, you need to. What are you waiting for?
Bigamy is a crime in IL (I assume your father is in Illinois). Your mother would have a cause of action for support both for herself and the children.
A few questions: 1) when did all this happen, and 2) are there resources available to afford the litigation?
Congratulations on the impending addition!
No, the father is not automatically responsible for half the medical expenses. There is a way under Illinois, however, that he could possibly be responsible for ALL of the expenses related to the birth. You should hire a lawyer.
Just as an aside, if he won't communicate with you, how do you know "he states he wants a part of child's life?"
You should probably stop taking legal advice from your spouse and family. Hire a lawyer and get some real legal advice.
You don't give enough information to allow an attorney to answer your question about whether you'll have to pay maintenance.
Below are some legal articles that may help answer some of your questions, but CALL A LAWYER.
There's only one step to take: hire a lawyer.
The support will keep slipping away from you until a judge orders it to stop. That won't happen until you file the proper papers with the court. That won't happen until you hire a lawyer. So . . . you know what needs to be done.
Some "uncontested" cases costs a few hundred dollars; others cost several thousand dollars -- it depends on the size of the estate, the complexity of the agreement, and where things stand in negotiations. To most couples, "uncontested" means they don't fight anything out in court. They might fight and argue and haggle over a lot of things (like, for instance, how much child support one should pay to the other, or who gets the nicer car) but, as long as they never have to take the witness...