If your son's mom wants to push the issue, she can try to enforce the court order which gave her custody so be careful. Perhaps talk to her and ask if by agreement, he can come live with you. If she says yes- consider having it formalized it in court.
You didn't mention whether or not your agreement specifies someone specific , but in any case, you don't have to agree with who your ex suggests. Some courthouses have lists of family mediators, or you may look elsewhere for one, but I do suggest going to mediation sooner rather than later. Find someone that is geographically convenient to both of you and see if you can agree on someone new. Good luck.
Most judges will divide the retirement from the date of the marriage through the date of the divorce. Cheating has nothing to do with property distribution but only will give you "grounds" - the right TO divorce. Sounds like you need to get this started!
Spanish: Si! No importa donde se casaron, lo importante es donde usted vive ahora. Si piensan regesar a vivir en Mexico, debe investigar en Mx. si reconocen un divorcio Americano, aunque mi imagino que si. Suerte!
English: Yes! It doesn't matter where you got married, what is important is where you live now. If you are considering returning to live in Mexico, you may want to check with Mexico to make sure that they recognize an American divorce, although I imagine that they would. good luck!
No. While you certainly would like to be supportive & helpful, in many ways that could be counterproductive. His ex wife might resent it and those feelings could overshadow any inclination that she may have otherwise had to be agreeable. Mediation usually works best when it is only between the parties.
You should have signed an agreement with the attorney at the outset of representation, clarifying how the fees would work. It is not uncommon for attorneys to request another retainer once the old one is spent. It sounds like the agreement was for work to be done on an hourly basis and if that is the case, good billing practices would dictate that you receive bills along the way so that you know how much is left, but failure to do so should not necessarily meant that you can't be charged more...
If it turns out that he is alive and has not already divorced you, you should go about divorcing him by filing in the county in which you live. He will need to be notified by publication in the newspaper. While this will get you legally divorced, property issues will not be decided-although by now you probably do not have any property together anyway. Good luck!
While I understand your concern and upset over the court fees of $200, I would be more concerned with enforcing the judgment (collecting from her). Perhaps you can negotiate for her to bring at least partial payment to court in exchange for letting the court costs go. Good luck!
There is more to maintenance than the number of years married, but as a factor in and of itself, the longer married the higher the chance that maintenance will be awarded, generally speaking. Contact an attorney to discuss all of your circumstances beyond number of years married to see if you may have a maintenance case.