If your son's mom wants to push the issue, she can try to enforce the court order which gave her custody so be careful. Perhaps talk to her and ask if by agreement, he can come live with you. If she says yes- consider having it formalized it in court.
You didn't mention whether or not your agreement specifies someone specific , but in any case, you don't have to agree with who your ex suggests. Some courthouses have lists of family mediators, or you may look elsewhere for one, but I do suggest going to mediation sooner rather than later. Find someone that is geographically convenient to both of you and see if you can agree on someone new. Good luck.
While every lawyer or law firm will have its own criteria for the kinds of cases they will accept, there is no rule that says a lawyer won't "go to court" for people who don't have jobs. True, private law firms will require payment but it sounds like your spouse is just trying to push your buttons! Stop listening to what he or she thinks the law should be and get advice from a lawyer.
Neither you nor your lawyer have a choice in the matter. It is required by the court in Cook County. It shouldn't be a big deal money-wise anyway, typically they average less than $50. Don't run the risk of all of the effort and money that was put into your case be for nothing when the judge un-divorces you, all over a transcript. Pay the court reporter and be done with it.
You are taking a big risk if you buy property while you are still married; without the proper safeguards in place which should be discussed in person with an attorney. This comes down to understanding the difference between marital property and non-marital property. Your best bet is to get legal advice asap.
Don't let your soon to be ex husband decide what is marital and what isn't. At the end of the day, the furniture should be pretty easy to deal with. You'll want to make sure you know what all of the assets are, which will be done during the course of the "discovery phase" of the divorce. I wrote a book that I can give you, answering these kinds of questions. Good luck!
You asked about custody but the custody decision was made at the time that you were divorced. What you should be asking is how to make your ex-wife stop trying to interfere between you and your son- which harms both of you. Documents need to be filed in court immediately. The longer you wait, the more confused your child will be about who to call dad. Don't let him forget who you are!
Since you are already divorced, these terms should already be in your divorce decree which your lawyer should have explained to you, in depth, before you signed them. If he or she is still available, maybe a quick call to his or her office will clear things up as to your particular circumstance.
Debt incurred by either one of you during the marriage is fair game when it comes to having a judge decide who pays for what. All debt should be addressed in a final divorce decree so that there is no ambiguity as to who pays for what. Most likely, you and your spouse will attempt to negotiate or settle the case; perhaps this can go on your list of things you want him to agree to pay for.