If your son's mom wants to push the issue, she can try to enforce the court order which gave her custody so be careful. Perhaps talk to her and ask if by agreement, he can come live with you. If she says yes- consider having it formalized it in court.
You didn't mention whether or not your agreement specifies someone specific , but in any case, you don't have to agree with who your ex suggests. Some courthouses have lists of family mediators, or you may look elsewhere for one, but I do suggest going to mediation sooner rather than later. Find someone that is geographically convenient to both of you and see if you can agree on someone new. Good luck.
Neither you nor your lawyer have a choice in the matter. It is required by the court in Cook County. It shouldn't be a big deal money-wise anyway, typically they average less than $50. Don't run the risk of all of the effort and money that was put into your case be for nothing when the judge un-divorces you, all over a transcript. Pay the court reporter and be done with it.
You are taking a big risk if you buy property while you are still married; without the proper safeguards in place which should be discussed in person with an attorney. This comes down to understanding the difference between marital property and non-marital property. Your best bet is to get legal advice asap.
While I agree that you should "hire a lawyer"; seek out information first- It sounds like there will be many things at stake: kids, house, finances...... Educate yourself on how to select an attorney who is right for you; shop around and determine who you would like to meet with as a starting point; don't necessarily just go for the freebie consultations- you need in depth comprehensive advice. Start gathering documents like bank statements, tax returns, etc so that you can educate yourself...
Even though you didn't want the divorce and the whole situation feels unfair to you, the last thing you need now is for things to get worse which is why you need an attorney to represent you before your time limit is up to participate in what is going on. Payment options vary and is something that should be discussed at your first consultation. A thorough consultation usually comes with a pricetag but it can be money well spent so that you can have all of your questions answered.
Your options are in large part going to be dependent on what your divorce decree says; its terrible that 6 years after a divorce, you are still tied to that mortgage. Sit down with a family law attorney to review your options as soon as possible.
Most judges will divide the retirement from the date of the marriage through the date of the divorce. Cheating has nothing to do with property distribution but only will give you "grounds" - the right TO divorce. Sounds like you need to get this started!
Spanish: Si! No importa donde se casaron, lo importante es donde usted vive ahora. Si piensan regesar a vivir en Mexico, debe investigar en Mx. si reconocen un divorcio Americano, aunque mi imagino que si. Suerte!
English: Yes! It doesn't matter where you got married, what is important is where you live now. If you are considering returning to live in Mexico, you may want to check with Mexico to make sure that they recognize an American divorce, although I imagine that they would. good luck!
No. While you certainly would like to be supportive & helpful, in many ways that could be counterproductive. His ex wife might resent it and those feelings could overshadow any inclination that she may have otherwise had to be agreeable. Mediation usually works best when it is only between the parties.