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Shari M Gianarelli

Shari Gianarelli’s Answers

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  • Father lives in Texas and I live in Montana 2,300 miles away and the father does not stay in contact, for parenting plan.

    i as the mother live in Montana with my daughter who is 1. She was born in Montana. A paternity test has been issued and the father whom lives in Texas 2,300 miles away is the father. I been tying to contact him since I was pregnant and he will re...

    Shari’s Answer

    This is a complicated question. You cannot force him to be a parent, but you can force him to pay child support. The easiest way to do that is to file with Child support Enforcement Division (application is on line). They will "enforce" the child support obligation. If you are afraid he will take your daughter, then you should file for a parenting plan (there are forms to do it, also online), and at least put forward to a Court what you think the parenting plan should be for your daughter. If you file here, he will have to come here to challenge the plan, if he doesn't like it. Consult a counselor or doctor regarding what parenting arrangement would be best for your daughter. Absent an Order you have no obligation to take the child to Texas. You should consult an attorney.

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  • How do I go about this? Is it legal if I tell him I'm taking them with me and that he can come figure it out here?

    Im a mother of two married to a pathological liar, I moved to montana to be with him and now the lies have gotten to be too much. I want to go back to my home state, Massachusetts but can't leave without my kids. He says I can't take them with me.

    Shari’s Answer

    Your question is complicated. First, is there any order restricting you from removing them from Montana? Is he holding you hostage? If all he's doing is saying "you can't take them with you" I don't understand why you can't just pack up and leave with them. If he has an order, then you have to get court permission. If there's no order, and he's not holding you against your will (weapons, physically, etc) there is no reason you cannot leave. Understand he may request an order from a court requesting you return them. However, once in Massachusetts you may be able to get an order giving you custody. You should consult an attorney once you are there.

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  • When a parent dies,does the land he owns in his name only go to his children or to his new wife?

    The total land is held by the family 5 siblings, that my dad was one of. They each held an equal tracked. I wanted to know if since he remarried, does it go back to his siblings or to his children or to his new wife.

    Shari’s Answer

    The land ownership would control, but it depends on many factors, including the way it is held among the siblings, whether your Father made a will, etc. I agree that you have provided insufficient information to answer your question.

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  • Is it illegal to lie about your age to get with a guy?

    So one of my friends went to jail because his girlfriend lied about her age can they charge her for lying about her age or is it all his fault? I'm confused and need answers

    Shari’s Answer

    In order to answer this question, I would need to know what your friend is charged with-what crime? Also, how old is he and how old is the girlfriend? It can be a defense to a statutory rape charge if the person charged "reasonably believed" that the person was old enough, but that is a difficult defense to mount. How and why he got charged would also be interesting to me. Did her parents complain? He should get an attorney and then have all of the information which the law enforcement officers and prosecutor has.

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  • I was arrested in 2010 for alleged stalking. My firearms were taken from me and I was told that I would get them back in 2015.

    When I went to retrieve them I was told that because there's a bill before the courts stating that anyone with a mental disorder are not allowed to have guns, I'm not entitled yo get my guns back. Am I allowed to get my guns back?

    Shari’s Answer

    I would need more information to give you an answer. I will tell you that if you were convicted of stalking, there is a Federal Law (Violence Against Women Act) which legally prevents you from owning firearms. Who is in possession of the firearms? Are you or were you on probation? Who told you you would get your guns back in 2015?

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  • Do I need to file for contempt of court?

    My husband and I moved from MT to WA 4 months ago. I left my son with his father because he told me he would drag me through the court system and have my son taken away from me. I didn't want my child to endure that, so we agreed that he would sta...

    Shari’s Answer

    Your question is very complex. However, if you are not being given the rights and privileges you and your son's father agreed to in a written parenting plan, then you should file a Motion asking the Court to hold him in Contempt and asking the Court for some kind of relief. If you want just what you already agreed to, then you should let the Court know. If you want to modify the parenting plan, then you should also ask for that. Interfering with a parent's contact with a child is considered a change in circumstance warranting modification of a plan if it's in the best interests of the child to make the change. The key is getting all the information you can and documenting all of your attempts to remain in contact with your son and the denials. You should be getting all of your school information directly from the school, as a Mother, in any event. I never recommend that separated parents rely upon the other to feed them information. Contact the school and ensure you are receiving duplicates of all mailings and information. If you know where your son goes to the doctor, get his medical records. If possible, go to the town and speak with his teacher(s) and other people in the community about how your son is doing. And ask for a visit in person with your son while you are there or go to the school to see him and have lunch or something. You are legally entitled to do so. Good luck.

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  • How would it work in a parenting plan if both parents are going to be in different states?

    We are unmarried, and i was brought to Montana to "make it easier" for my son and I to get the help we needed. I'm a first time mom and my son is almost a year and a half. I realized being out here has made my health that much worse due to stress ...

    Shari’s Answer

    You should seek legal advice. I believe there are low cost attorneys available in your area who can help you including through the University of Montana Law School. Working out a parenting plan between parents in different states is done everyday by Montana Courts and mediators and parties. There are any number of arrangements which the two of you could agree to or a Court could order. You will want to be prepared to advise your attorney where the child has lived, and with whom, since birth. If you have been in Montana for more than six months, then Montana is considered the child's home state for purposes of jurisdiction. If less than six months, you can, as the child's parent, and so long as there is no Court order in place requiring you to remain in State, or the child to remain in State, return to where you were living and file for a parenting plan there. You should expect you will need to provide the Father with substantial and frequent contact, whether by video conference or in person. It would be good to speak with a counselor or doctor about what is best for a child of such a young age in regard to separation from you for visits. Good Luck.

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  • I was 17 when I shoplifted and was charged with petty theft and I paid all my fines, a month later I turned 18. Is that cleared?

    I am curious because when I apply for jobs I'm not sure if I should say yes to the misdemeanor questions or not. Is it off my record? The item was around $50 but was on sale for $20. There was no intention to shoplift when I walked in, it just hap...

    Shari’s Answer

    I don't have enough information to answer your question. What court were you convicted in? What State? All of these have bearing on your answer. If you were charged in youth court, your record is sealed and you are not required to disclose the offense. If you were charged in justice or city court, then it probably shows on your record. You can order your Montana criminal record on-line and that would tell you exactly what is on the record and what is not. That would be the best way to determine whether you need to disclose the conviction. If it is not Montana, you would need a National criminal record check which you may also request through a law enforcement agency.

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  • Is it possible to get 12 year old misdemeanor possession and paraphernalia charges expunged in Montana?

    The conviction occurred 12 years ago. I recently received a master's degree and these old charges from when I was 19 could affect the chances of employment from large design firms. Is it possible to have them expunged from my record?

    Shari’s Answer

    Montana does not permit expungement by State law at this time. You may have an argument that you should be allowed to withdraw your guilty plea because your rights were violated somehow by the Court (no attorney representation being the most likely) however it is unlikely.

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  • With court order custody agreement I haven't seen my son in 6yrs and we have never Been in court?

    My sons dad remarried and since they refuse to follow the court ordered parenting plan for my visitation. When I have filed w the court for violation his attorney get it thrown out. My son is being manipulated by his da and step mom and we have ne...

    Shari’s Answer

    You need to hire an attorney and to file a Motion to enforce your rights under the parenting plan. If you cannot afford an attorney you can file your own papers for Contempt indicating that the Father is not following the parenting plan and filling out an Affidavit stating what has been happening that violates the parenting plan. The Court has forms available and they are also available on the internet.

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