This is a question even the most experienced of trial attorneys struggle with. Do you show all of your cards, so to speak, or do you wait until trial? There are many considerations when making this decision. Do you want to "tip off" the other side so they can gather counter evidence which undermines your trial position? Or, do you want to try to force a settlement by putting everything on the table? The answer to the question will depend on many things including the strength of the...
Normally, parental rights can only be terminated with an accompanying adoption. If your husband want to adopt the children, you certainly seem to have sufficient grounds to terminate the biological father's parental rights. However, you should consult with an attorney or social service agency to find out for sure and to look into the process.
He may not have had a choice. Mediation is mandatory and the judge may have not agreed that your spouse's history was enough to waive the requirement. Make sure you tell the mediator about the history so he/she can take precautions. For example, the mediator can keep you in separate rooms and go back and forth between you. Or, sometimes, you can even do the mediation by phone.
I see you have posted several questions about your situation. If you don't have an attorney, I strongly advise you to obtain counsel. No one on this forum can you give you legal advice, especially about whether to follow a court order. An attorney who is representing you is in a much better position to do so. If you have an attorney, ask him/her and follow their advice.
You can't terminate your parental rights. The only way this can happen is if the mother gets remarried and her spouse wants to adopt. You shouldn't take out the sins of the mother on your son and you can't terminate your obligations to your son just because she makes things difficult. The appropriate remedy is to go back to court to seek visitation.
If your name is not on the account, you do not have the right to access that account nor would the bank let you. You should meet with a divorce attorney to discuss your options. Once you file for divorce or legal separation, the court can order him to pay certain bills, pay you money towards bills or order him to turn over marital money.
I agree with Attorney Walton but you do not need to wait to file for divorce until you are discharged from bankruptcy. It usually is better to file bankruptcy together. But, a final divorce cannot be granted until the bankruptcy is finalized but both actions take about the same amount of time, absent complications. In fact, sometimes being separated will help you both qualify for the means tests on a Chapter 7. You should consult with both a bankruptcy and a divorce attorney to determine...
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