You should contact the police immediately. Your car could be being used in criminal activity. Notify your insurance company and inform them that the car has been stolen. Document all your activities with the police and insurance and for your own records. You can contact the bureau of motor vehicle and see if the car has been sold. Your "friend"may have forged your name to sell it. Different attorneys and web sites may be able to check where the car is.
The father is just blowing smoke. I do not believe that he will do anything. He would need to file an Application/Motion for Custody in the State and County in which the child lives. He would need to travel from his state to fight for custody in your state. I would wait until he files for custody, because in Ohio, you are deemed the sole custodian until a court says otherwise. Do not file yourself....wait until he does, because he may never file. It is doubtful that he would be granted...
You must first look at your court order. If the court order is silent on the issue than he does not have to pay for extra-curricular activities. If you want to resolve the issue than you probably should take him back to court. The pressure of going to court, hiring attorney and time spent, might force him to rethink his position. Unfortunately, it will cost you time and money, as well.
The big questions is, Why was your husband asked to leave the child support office? If your husband did not have custody than that will be an issue and will need to prove that the child lived with you.
You should be able to obtain back support, however, 1. it won't be easy, and 2) the court losing jurisdiction of the case soon. You should file for the support soon.
I believe that something maybe missing from your Journal Entry. Review and see if there is any language in the entry that indicates how or to whom it should get directly paid. In Cleveland, it is generally required to be paid through CSEA, unless it is specifically says to be paid directly. Review all the paperwork thoroughly. You should have an attorney review the paperwork or you could be in violation if you do not pay support correctly. Please contact me with any questions.
In the state of Ohio the courts devide everything fair and equitably. The house would not have to be sold provided she can buy him out of his portion of the equity in the property. She would be entitled to a portion of his assets, including any retirement, pension. Theproperty can off-set each other.
There is a one year statute of limitations for this intentional act. You can sue him in civil court, but it would be up to you to prove your damages. Technically, it would be the difference between you(before the attack) and you (after the attack). It will be tough.