An executor fee is mandated by Ohio statute, and it's based upon a percentage of the value of the probate assets. If you do not have a probate estate or probate assets, the executor fee is not paid. Hopefully, your brother will agree to compensate you for all of your time and reimburse half of your expenses.
The only way you can control your assets "from the grave" is to set up a Living Trust. The Trust can provide for your daughter during her lifetime and then go to your grandchildren (or other beneficiaries) at your daughter's death. A Trust would also protect the assets from your daughter's creditors and any future divorce. If you are considering a Trust, you should consult with an estate planning attorney.
If these matters are in probate court, you can file motions to have the co-executors removed and someone else appointed. If these matters involve trusts, the trust documents need to be reviewed for trustee removal provisions.
I agree that a Revocable Living Trust may be a viable option, but you should discuss your estate planning goals, assets and other information with an estate planning attorney to determine your best course of action.
You should consult with an expert probate attorney. You can retain that attorney if you are comfortable with the quoted fees and services to be provided. I am not certain what you mean by "legal consultant," and I would not recommend hiring someone who is not a licensed attorney.
Are you pretty certain your grandmother had a Will? If so, you can contact her attorney, check with the probate court to see if she deposited her Will there, and find out if she had a safe deposit box where the Will could be stored. If your grandmother did not have a Will, or you cannot find her Will, your father may need to open an estate and be appointed the Administrator, if it's appropriate to do so. It's difficult to answer your question without additional details. For example, why would...
The ODJFS's Request for Cash, Food and Medical Assistance asks about household income and expenses, as well as proof of ownership of vehicles, bank accounts, stocks/bonds, CDs, life insurance, health insurance, trusts and annuities. It does not ask the applicant about ownership in real estate. If your friend is still concerned, he/she can contact the local county agency for more information.
I agree with the previous answers, but if the settlement amount was not large, the judge could have ordered it paid to your parent or legal guardian or custodian instead of into a guardianship account. That happened with two minor clients of mine a few years ago. Check with the probate court first, and if a lawsuit was filed in common pleas court for the accident itself, I would check the docket of the common pleas court as well. Good luck!
The funeral home is private property, and the director can bar or remove anyone he/she chooses. I would discuss this with the director of the funeral home and find out what its policies are and how the funeral home has handled similar circumstances in the past.