You need to hire a local attorney to help you, and you should be able to mitigate the charges. Most Judges don't care to hear that you did not know, beacuse they hear that every time, but the fact that you are military carries some weight and will be a big help. In MS the DA works felony charges, and a local prosecutor works minor charges like this. You can call the court and ask who the prosecutor (city or county) is depending on if you got the ticket in city limits or not. He/she may or may...
I'm confused, were you the wrong person that got served?
If so, why did you not show up at court and say so? You have a duty to mitigate.
Why do you not have a contract with your attorney?
Why are you upset that your lawyer is trying to mediate? That may be your best option.
Contact a local personal injury attorney, preferably one of the attorneys that are licensed in CA above that have taken the time to respond to your question. If you are still having headaches, then go back to your doctor and make sure you don't have a concussion.
Very sorry to hear about your loss. Call a personal injury firm and take advantage of the free initial consultation. If the hospital is a government entity, then the tort claim act will apply, and your attorney can explain how the process will go. Medical malpractice cases are difficult, and expensive since medical experts must be obtained to review the facts surrounding each claim. What will determine if there is a viable claim will be if the dr or hospital was negligent, or to say it another...
Yes, you need a lawyer to help. You 'might' be able to claim it on your insurance if you still had the car insured? You have some options, so contact a lawyer in your state and run the facts by them and I bet they can come up with a way to help you.
If you have $40K in medical, you may have a substantial personal injury lawsuit. One reason the insurance company is dragging their feet, is beacuse you don't have an attorney and they have nothing to lose by jerking you around.
On a side note, if you are still treating, then you need to make sure you get a settlement amount that will fairly compensate you for almost two years of pain and suffering. I suggest you contact one of the attorneys in your state to at least get a free consultation.