You should go ahead and call the 1-800 number to verify that the notice was sent to the proper address. It's possible that the mail is taking an extraordinarily long time to get to you, but I think you're at the point where it should have been delivered by now.
I wish I could give you a clear answer, but it honestly just depends. It depends on the workload at that office, how fast or slow the adjudicator is, and other factors beyond anyone' s control. Hopefully it won't take more than a month or two before your case moves forward. However, it gets to be six months and nothing has changed with your case status, contact the National Customer Service hotline for an update.
You can write a letter to the Vermont Service Center and ask for an extension of your prima facie case. Be sure to include a copy of your original prima facie receipt.
The rules vary from state to state, but you could at least try and see about a driver's license while you wait. Sometimes, just having a case pending, like you have, is enough.
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. In order to file for your green card, you need your husband's support. The only exception is if you'd been a victim of domestic violence or extreme cruelty from him. If that has happened to you, go talk with an attorney or a non-profit immigration organization whenever you can. There may be options. But, if the addiction is the only problem - and I know it's a big one - unfortunately, there's not really anything you can do to "fix" your...
I am so sorry to hear you're going through this. Unfortunately, we have seen a lot of good cases get denied by the Vermont Service Center lately. You have 30 days to file an appeal. To make sure everything gets done correctly, please talk to an experienced attorney who can help you. You could refile the I-360, but it is likely faster to the do the appeal. Take a deep breath - it's not over, but you do need to fight for your case for a little while longer.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. USCIS will focus on your marriage if you are applying under the three-year rule for citizenship based on marriage to a USC. If you've had your permanent resident status for five years or more, the divorce won't matter in the big picture. But, if you want to apply under that three-year exception for spouses, you must be married and will need to show USCIS that you continue to live together. I highly advise talking to an attorney about your options.
Just because your green card expired doesn't necessarily mean that you lost immigration status. You will want to hire an experienced attorney to see what your options are - and if you still have status, you may be able to simply file for a renewal card.
The question isn't really how much time you served in jail, but what exactly the judge sentenced you to. You will certainly want to take your court paperwork to an experienced attorney who can tell you how the DUI conviction impacts your potential I-485 application.
There might be ways - such as what the previous attorney discussed in terms of a waiver. Another avenue might be to look at U status, if the person was ever the victim of a violent crime. It's a complex question and you'd be best served by talking with a credible attorney.