Attorneys who provide consultations in family law matters (myself included) will generally charge a consultation fee. Unless you want to waste an hour of your time, avoid the "free consultations" which consist of a sales pitch but provide very little, if any, substantive advice.
Also look for a lawyer who concentrates in this area of the law. With something this important, you do not want a jack of all trades.
Circuit Courts are not particularly user friendly nor are they a court of forms. Litigants are expected to be able to prepare their own pleadings.
While I was not in court and thus cannot dispute your version of what the judge said, he may have suggested that you speak with an attorney ABOUT filing a Motion to Quash. Since your question is in the Family Law section, chances are that the medical records would be relevant to some issue in a divorce or custody case and would not be quashed, in...
You do not forfeit an interest in the real estate by moving out; however, it is always better to try to have a writtten Agreement prior to moving. If direct discussions are unsuccessful, I suggest that you try mediation.
If the parties agree to change it. If it is child custody or child support and there has been a material change of circumstances. If there is a provision in the Agreement that something can be changed. In other words, it depends. Consult an attorney who can review the particulars of your Agreement.
The answer also depends on what she is asking for in the divorce. If she is just asking that the marriage be dissolved and nothing more, there may be no need for an appearance. A consultation with an Indiana attorney can confirm this.
Being listed on the birth certificate or not is not the mother's choice. The father can go to the Juvenile and Domestic Relations District Court and have paternity determined and then have Vital Records add him to the birth certificate. Even without being on the birth certificate, the father can petition the court for custody and/or visitation.
You have to be separated in Virginia for one year unless you have a written Agreement. With such an Agreement, the waiting period is reduced to 6 months. The Agreement can and should provide an allocation of debts and assets and support. If you cannot agree, then a court will decide.
It makes no difference which of you actually files for divorce,