You should speak with the recruiter. She / he will tell you if you can get a waiver. It is important to disclose this so later you do not get fraudulent discharge. You may want to have the documents available.
So long you have the court telling you you can claim your child, it should be sufficient for the IRS. If I recall correctly, the 50% of the time requirement applies only if here is no court order. You are always free to call IRS to double check and take down the information of the person you spoke with.
Under the Uniformed Services Former Spouses Protection Act, generally it is required that you are married for 20 years during which he serves in the military. There are some benefits when you are married for 10 years during which he is serving. For 6 years,, there is not entitlement to a certain percentage. I am attaching a link here for your general knowledge, but it is best that you consult with a legal assistance attorney on your base. http://www.cobar.org/docs/USFSPA%20Slides.pdf
You raise several issues here, all related. First GOMOR must comply with AR 600-37; second DASEB and ABCMR are not final authorities and in fact at times they have been overruled by the U.S. Court of Federal Claims and District Courts. You have a financial entitlement in your military service and incorrect military records negatively impact your retirement, promotion, grade determination, character of discharge, etc. Third, as my Cave indicated, there could be a set of other factors that...
Usually in situations of this type it may be best to retain an attorney and write a demand letter. It does not sound like he is disputing the amount- he is just ignoring it hoping you will give up. Also, you may consider redrafting the initial agreement.
The first step should be to review the terms of the contract and see where the responsibility is for packaging goods. You should preserve evidence regarding the faulty packaging. The contact should tell you which laws are applicable, etc. There may be other laws applicable outside of the contract, ie the United Nations Convention on Contracts for the International Sale of Goods, of which Italy and the US are signatories. If you purchased insurance, examine your insurance policy to determine...
You may only enter a particular country legally. If non-state actors kidnapped your client, then you should coordinate with local authorities. If local authorities kidnapped your client, then you should contact them for release. You may also contact the authorities of the country your client is from. I am reading 'forcefully' as not legally.