It is difficult to determine liability and damages without a more detailed consultation. From your write up, it appears that the only element of damages is the scar on your knee. You don't say you are having trouble walking, continued pain, etc. Nor do you have medical documentation to assist in a claim. Proving damages will be difficult. Your circumstances are complicated by the looming Chapter 7. I suggest you speak with a qualified personal injury lawyer, for a more complete analysis...
You should retain a qualified criminal defense lawyer, as soon as possible. Your lawyer can probably arrange for you to go to court, and know what to expect when you get there. On the other hand, if you wait to get picked up someday, you will definitely have a harder time dealing with the situation.
Bail is set by a judge, who considers several factors, including the severity of the charges, the likelihood of jail and the defendant's ties to the community. If the judge feels the defendant is a flight risk, he will set a high bail. But bail does not mean the defendant does not have to come back to court. It means he gets out of jail, while the case is pending. But he has to appear in court, whenever directed to do so.
It is common for judges to remand defendants charged with Murder...
I am unaware of any provision in NY law that permits service of any legal document by text message.
The foregoing is offered for information only and is not intended to be legal advice or to create an attorney/client relationship
Defendants are typically given a written copy of the terms of probation, when they are sentenced. You might want to start by contacting his lawyer, who might have your father's copy of the terms in his file. If that does not work, you can try reviewing the Court file.
Much more information is needed to answer your question. Was bail set? If the person makes bail, he/she can be released from jail while the case is pending. What is the purpose of the adjournments? Has the defense attorney consented to the adjournments?
Getting a non-alcohol related plea disposition with .12 reading is not easy. That your lawyer believes it is a possibility, after 7 months shows he has not given up. Answering your question about dismissal would require more facts. Explore your options with your attorney. You may want to consult another attorney for a second opinion.