Generally you're right on the border (in terms of age of child) where the court considers his preference to be a very strong factor. It means by the time you'd hit a trial, he'll be 14 & his preference will likely carry the day. For a full assessment, speak to a NYC Family Law attorney.
Communicate with your ex first & see if there's any reason why he can't pick another week. Ultimately I cannot advise to deviate from the order, though your remedy is to file a petition for modification & see what the Judge says about it. For a full assessment, schedule a consultation with a White Plains Child Custody attorney.
Not merely on the facts you've presented. If his conduct was limited to mere speech unconnected to unlawful conduct, he cannot be arrested nor can you sue (at least not for an order of protection). To the degree there are details you left out, then I encourage you to schedule a consultation with a NYC Family Law attorney for a full assessment.
At the least, have the paperwork reviewed by an attorney before you sign anything. It's worth the price of a small conmsultation fee to make sure you're not giving up your rights to anything. Many lawyers give free initial consultations, so schedule an appointment with a NYC Divorce attorney.
What kind of case is this? As a practical matter, as the other attorneys have said, the Judge's Court Attorney (or "Law Secretary") generally assists the Judge in making a decision. Indeed, sometimes the Court Attorney is the one who actually drafts the decision (i.e., the one who does the writing) but in my experience it's ALWAYS the Judge who makes the actual decision. That said, I advise you to schedule a consultation with a NYC Family Law attorney for a full assessment of the case.
Unfortunately, it seems a little late in your game to now apply for Poor Person status, as that usually needs to be done at the beginning of the case. And unless you feel the Judge didn't consider certain facts, filing a motion to reargue seems an exercise in futility. You may wish to consider an appeal at this point. That said, it behooves you to schedule a consultation with a NYC Divorce attorney.
Westchester is taking about 3-4 months on average to sign judgments of divorce from when all the papers have been submitted. That said, unfortunately, if you are representing yourself, those submissions often take longer as those have a high percentage of errors in them.
If he is that hostile, collaborative law doesn't seem the way to go. You're of course free to raise these concerns to the collaborative law attorney. But you're best advised to schedule a consultation with your own NYC Divorce attorney.
First, it's not exactly accurate to say that one cannot take ANY money out of a joint account after the filing of a divorce. Instead, the automatic orders state that one cannot take out more than is customary to spend on ordinary living expenses. If he took out more than that, then yes, he may have arguably violated the order. That said, neither small claims court nor Family Court would have jurisdiction over such a claim. If you cannot afford an attorney, you may contact Legal Aid and/or...