What kind of case is this? As a practical matter, as the other attorneys have said, the Judge's Court Attorney (or "Law Secretary") generally assists the Judge in making a decision. Indeed, sometimes the Court Attorney is the one who actually drafts the decision (i.e., the one who does the writing) but in my experience it's ALWAYS the Judge who makes the actual decision. That said, I advise you to schedule a consultation with a NYC Family Law attorney for a full assessment of the case.
Unfortunately, it seems a little late in your game to now apply for Poor Person status, as that usually needs to be done at the beginning of the case. And unless you feel the Judge didn't consider certain facts, filing a motion to reargue seems an exercise in futility. You may wish to consider an appeal at this point. That said, it behooves you to schedule a consultation with a NYC Divorce attorney.
Westchester is taking about 3-4 months on average to sign judgments of divorce from when all the papers have been submitted. That said, unfortunately, if you are representing yourself, those submissions often take longer as those have a high percentage of errors in them.
If he is that hostile, collaborative law doesn't seem the way to go. You're of course free to raise these concerns to the collaborative law attorney. But you're best advised to schedule a consultation with your own NYC Divorce attorney.
Writing a letter to - or calling - the Plaintiff's attorney is insufficient to fromally answer the complaint, as you've found. To vacate your default, you must technically file a motion to vacate your default in the action. You must generally provide a reasonable excuse for your default as well as state a "meritorious defense." I also highly recommend, at the least that you schedule a free consultation with a White Plains Divorce attorney.
First, it's not exactly accurate to say that one cannot take ANY money out of a joint account after the filing of a divorce. Instead, the automatic orders state that one cannot take out more than is customary to spend on ordinary living expenses. If he took out more than that, then yes, he may have arguably violated the order. That said, neither small claims court nor Family Court would have jurisdiction over such a claim. If you cannot afford an attorney, you may contact Legal Aid and/or...
First, it is possible to ask for temporary custody. Second, you should definitely not handle a contested custody case on your own. You should immediately schedule a consultation with a Bronx Child Custody attorney.
You would probably be able to make out a cause of annulment, either on the grounds that he lacked sufficient "understanding" of the proceeding and/or because of his "physical state." If this is your intention, you should move to annul the marriage immediately, however, as the longer you go, the more a Judge may believe that at some point you "ratified" the marriage. In any event, I encourage you to schedule a follow-up consultation with a Bronx Co. Divorce attorney.
You cannot do it in Family Court as that court does not have jurisdiction over property issues. You will need to file an order to show cause and attach the appropriate exhibits. As to whether you can do it yourself, you're best judging that after you've had a consultation with a lawyer. Thus, I encourage you to schedule a free consult with a Westchester Co. Divorce attorney.
I'd highly suggest to do 2 things - (1) file a petition to modify the support order, and (2) file a custody petition. Assuming there was a valid reason the child wasn't with the mother in the first place, you may be putting the child at risk of harm if the child continues to live with the mother given what you've related. Ultimately the support court may simply change the payee (or recipient) of support, but not necessarily terminate it unless custody goes to you. Nevertheless, I encourage...