It really depends on what the visitation order says. If the order says "8pm drop-off," then Mom's arguably violated it. But rather than cause more issues with a violation case, I suggest your Dad try either speaking to her or writing to her and point out the discrepancy and ask to revert to the order. If she refuses, then your Dad will need to file a violation petition.
Yes - having temporary custody is indeed a factor the Judge will consider at the ultimate custody trial. This is because stability in the child's life is a specific factor which must be weighed. That said, there are numerous other factors which must be considered as well. For a full assessment, you're best advised to schedule a consultation with a NYC Child Custody lawyer.
There's not really anything you can do in advance because he would need to be served with a summons & if he's not in the country, you can't serve him. That said, upon his return, if he files, you may counter-file for an order of protection (if warranted) and a request that his visitation be supervised. Nevertheless, for a full assessment, please schedule a consultation with a NYC Child Custody attorney.
Preliminarily, I'm concerned that you executed a "settlement agreement" but no case is actually pending yet. Usually, one "settles" a case which has been filed. In any event, whether the agreement is valid & enforceable depends on what it says. This, you'd need to take it to an attorney for a review of same. As such, call a NYC Divorce attorney to schedule a consultation.
Write the 1st father a letter/e-mail which will serve the confirm the weekend his visits pick-up. State that his visits will pick-up the week after all your children are with you (but don't necessarily say that's your reason for stating that). See if he has any objections - ask that he get back to you if he does. If he does, one of you may need to go back to court on a modification petition.
You can sue him for child support, assuming the child is his. That said, I doubt you'd have any claim for breach of contract due to the lack of any "bargained-for exchange of things of value." Moreover, any emotional distress would have to be more than merely getting upset - it would need to be a serious psychological conditional attested to by your mental health professional and linked to the incident (i.e., an extremely hard burden to prove). If you're interested in suing for child support,...
Yes, you're highly advised to have it reviewed by an independent attorney. While a mediator may see things one way, an attorney who's on "your side" may give you different advise. As such, schedule a consultation with a Putnum/Westchester Divorce attorney for a full review & assessment.
I disagree with any absolute analysis that she definitely won't get maintenance or any share of the house. More facts are needed to complete the analysis. While courts are reluctant to grant maintenance in such a short-term marriage, there is ample caselaw awarding maintenance under certain circumstances, for instance where one spouse earns well into the 6-figures. Moreover, if the house was bought during the marriage, then it's marital property subject to division. As such, you're best...
The short answer is no, the father cannot terminate his own parental rights. If he works for the government, then he's a W-2 employment, and the basic child support will be an easy calculation (17% of his adjusted gross income). The father will also be obligated to pay his share of unreimbursed medical, educational & child care expenses. You're best advised to schedule a consultation with a NYC Child Support attorney for a full assessment.
Yes, if the trip would interfere with his visitation time. If you do have an order & wish for the Court to give you permission to take the trip, file a modification petition. If you don't have an order, file a petition for custody. For a full assessment, schedule a consultation with a NYC Child Custody lawyer.