You are entitled to temporary spousal support and you will receive 50 percent of the marital portion of his pension. you need to answer the divorce summons immediately. You should at least write a letter to his lawyer and say you are contesting the divorce. And file a copy of the letter in court. if your husband has other assets in his name I am sure some lawyers would consider taking your case
If you file your tax returns and claimed your kids, I believe the IRS would agree with you based on you being the custodial parent. However, depending on the working in the settlement agreement and judgement of divorce, your husband could file an order to show cause forcing you to sign the appropriate forms to allow him to take the deduction for the child. It seems it was clear that he was suppose to get the deduction and I think ultimately he will win on this issue.
A divorce summons must be served by personal delivery. Nail and Mail is not allowed, unless ordered by the Court. I suggest you file a motion allowing for alternate service. Based on your brief description, I suspect a Judge would grant this request.
Until such time as their is a court order on how the bills will be paid, their is no legal requirement for either of you to pay their fair share of the bills. However, my suggestion is for you each to contribute the same amount that you have previously been contributing. The last thing a Judge in Queens wants to hear is one party unilaterlly cut off all support. It will make the person who cut off the funds look terrible before the Judge deciding your case.
On your own, you can go to family court and the clerks will help you file a petition for relocation. If you have limited or no income, a family court Judge will most likely assign a lawyer to represent you for free. Unfortunately your case will be challenging because the ink seems not to be dry on your divorce decree. It seems your ex husband may have been thinking you were contemplating a relocation and added in the radius clause to your divorce agreemeent. I suggest you get organized and...