one of the lawyers on the case is required to file a final set of papers, which requires a finding of facts and a proposed judgement. It this was not done, the case is dismissed. It is not up to the court to file these papers
You are entitled to temporary spousal support and you will receive 50 percent of the marital portion of his pension. you need to answer the divorce summons immediately. You should at least write a letter to his lawyer and say you are contesting the divorce. And file a copy of the letter in court. if your husband has other assets in his name I am sure some lawyers would consider taking your case
If you file your tax returns and claimed your kids, I believe the IRS would agree with you based on you being the custodial parent. However, depending on the working in the settlement agreement and judgement of divorce, your husband could file an order to show cause forcing you to sign the appropriate forms to allow him to take the deduction for the child. It seems it was clear that he was suppose to get the deduction and I think ultimately he will win on this issue.