more information is needed, particularly what offense you are being charged with. Based on the amount of money stolen you are looking at either a 4th or 3rd degree crimes which carry a penalty of up to 18 months in prison for the 4th degree and 3 to 5 years in prison for the 3rd degree.
you should contact an attorney to discuss your situation. It sounds like you have a serious situation which can carry a significant penalty and a criminal record.
for the most part judges are too busy to read every litigant's submissions. usually these are read by the law clerks and summarized for the judge, if the judge has questions he would take a look at the papers. of course i am sure some judges read all submissions, this would be really up to the individual.
I am assuming you will have oral argument. You can always bring up those points that are important to your argument to make sure the judge knows about it. you can also point his attention...
you have to apply for a marriage license at the municipality. there is a possibility that they run a warrant check on the people applying for a marriage license. I am not sure about this but since most town courts and police departments are at the same location, it is indeed possible.
Best to get the warrant resolved. At least post the bail and get a court date. If he surrenders during court working hours, it is likely he can bail out the same day
Generally speaking they will not pursue you in Court for the civil demand, particularly if it is a small amount.
Do you have a criminal case pending? If so, the Kohls representative will likely attend the court hearing and participate in your or your attorney's plea bargaining. Many prosecutors are more likely to downgrade your charges if the civil demand/restitution has been paid. If the Kohls representative does not show up, then it wont matter.
For example the Sears representative always...
You will get to speak to the prosecutor and he/she may lower your violation to a no point ticket. Depending on how many points you are facing, it may be a good idea to get an attorney to handle your case as an attorney would likely get you a better deal.
I am assuming that you have filed the case with Special Civil Part. If you filed in the Law Division, you have to have the Summons and Complaint served by a process server whom you have to hire yourself.
In Special Civil, the Court will do the service for you. You can call them up to find out if it has been served. After it was served, the Defendant has 35 days to file an Answer. If they do not, you are entitled to a default and later a default judgment.
If they do Answer, you will get a...
as other attorneys stated, it would have to be in the best interest of the child. the court would give the 13 year old's preference significant weight. however there are many other factors. If your ex decides to fight it, you are looking at significant expenses. the court would likely order a child custody expert evaluation and that would be around $5,000.00 for the expert fee (probably paid 50/50 by the parties). plus you would incur attorney fees.
you basically have two options, either settle with the collection agency and agree with them on a payment plan or file bankruptcy. Most of the time unless the bill is small and you don't have much other debt it is more economical to file bankruptcy and just start fresh.
schedule an appointment with a bankruptcy attorney and discuss your options. Many attorneys, including myself provide free no obligation phone or in person consultation.
you may still have some to answer. how many days have passed since you have been served?
If not, you would need to file a motion to vacate default. do this ASAP. If you have an excuse (which you have) and a legitimate defense to the claims, in all likelihood the judge would vacate the default and allow you to file answer.