you really should have consulted an attorney before going to court on the FRO hearing. Based on what you are saying, it is very likely that an attorney would have been able to dismiss the TRO, courts are hesitant to grant restraining orders based on verbal abuse/harassment unless it is very extreme.
However now that you have agreed to civil restrains and agreed to stay out of the house, it will difficult to contest it.
Generally you have as much right to stay in your home as your wife until...
If you are applying for a law enforcement agency, you should certainly mention that you were arrested on suspicion of DUI but tested negative and were given a ticket for careless driving.
They will do a very thorough background check and I am certain your arrest will come up. So if you don't mention it, it will look bad.
A FRO is a very serious matter. You should contact an attorney right away. You really should have an attorney represent you at the FRO hearing. An experienced attorney may be able to have the TRO dismissed based on the circumstances of the case.
NJ Family Courts, which handle these cases, have very wide jurisdiction. Even if the event took place in NY, the jurisdiction may be proper because the Plaintiff lives in NJ and allegedly needs protection in NJ.
FRO consequences in NJ are quite...
you should call your local bar association. I am assuming that would be Bergen County bar association for you. They may set you up with someone who is doing pro bono work or on a reduced fee basis.
Generally speaking you are entitled to have a public defender for free (which you have) or you can go out and get a private attorney. Those are the two main options.
You can check with Legal Aid as well.
all of the above are theoretically possible depending on the circumstances. Generally speaking if it is for personal use and it is your first offense, if caught you would be arrested and would have to go to municipal court. at that point you would like be able to enter a diversionary program which upon completion would allow you to avoid criminal record.
if you are in a motor vehicle at the time you face loss of driver license and stiff fines.
As other counsel pointed out, more information is needed. However based on limited information you provided, it would appear that permanent alimony is warranted. Alimony will be based on your income and your husband's income. So if you file for divorce before he retires, his current income will be the basis of the calculation.
However once he does retire (at an appropriate age), he can apply to the court to re-calculate the alimony based on changed circumstances (i.e. permanent retirement)...
Depending on your record, you may be able to get into drug court or PTI. The municipal case may be dismissed if you in fact had the syringe for legitimate purpose. The fraudulent use of the debit card is likely a 3rd degree crime (felony) but if you have a decent record you may either get drug court/PTI or probation.
You should have an in-depth consultation with an attorney. Many attorneys including myself offer free consultations. Best of luck!
Since you already moved away from SC, you might not be able to file over there. This depends on SC law regarding residency. Your spouse could file however since he/she is still a resident of SC. As for NJ, you would have to wait another 6 months before you can file here
You should consult a DUI attorney. Based on what you are describing, you probably have a good chance of getting off on the DUI ticket and the other two can be plea bargained. I would need to take a look at the police report and the drug/alcohol test before determining your chances of beating the DUI charge.