I think you probably could benefit from a consultation with a family law attorney. You should be able to serve him without an address, but the procedure to do this can be complicated, and it can be useful to have an attorney walk you through that.
You can get a referral to talk to an attorney for no more than $25 for up to a half hour of consultation. https://www.vtbar.org/FOR%20THE%20PUBLIC/Find%20a%20Lawyer/Lawyer%20Referral%20Service%20Information.aspx
She has ownership rights in some portion of the property. She'll need to talk to an attorney to sort out what her rights are, and how to enforce them. The action to enforce them (partition) can be complicated, and can be mishandled easily. This is not an area of law I would wade into pro se.
What I hear in your question is a lot of really vague allegations - for example, it would be better for the children to spend more time with you because they are boys - CP is jealous of your wife, - your ex is only thinking of her benefits and using the kids as pawns, etc. These are things that are pretty difficult to "prove" to a judge, because really, what you're presenting here is your opinion.
You want to talk about specifics - days, places, times, incidents. Bring it down to something...
First of all, cooperate with the sheriff's office about service. Once you've accepted service, you have a limited amount of time to answer the complaint. You do not want to ignore this step, because you want to be able to answer with any defenses that may be available to you.
Once you've done this, you should really take the complaint to an attorney, to discuss all available defenses. In addition, you may want to discuss ways of getting this off of your credit report with your attorney....
If you don't have a custody order, it's probably time to get one. A final order will outline both parental rights and responsibilities over the child, and a contact schedule. Once you have filed a custody petition, the Court can issue a temporary order, outlining these matters until there is a final hearing. It can also cover issues regarding who transports the child to and from visitation, which will be useful if he is moving far away.
Once a temporary order is issued, if he removes the...
It really depends on the parents. Some parents can do a good job communicating face to face, and that works really well for the children, so long as the parents are in a position to communicate well.
Other parents, however, simply aren't ready to communicate well with one another. This can happen based on the behavior and history of one, or both of them.
When parents can't communicate well, which seems to be what you're describing, I usually recommend using e-mails. E-mails are great...
It's probably a really good idea to talk to a bankruptcy attorney in your state. I am not licensed in Florida, and every state has different rules regarding what property is exempt (meaning what you can keep in the event of a bankruptcy - roughly).
All that being said - no one ever NEEDS to file bankruptcy, but sometimes it is a good idea.
The person who gave you the loan for the mobile home most likely has what is called a purchase money security interest in it, meaning the home is...
I agree with everything Lars said. You can also contact the Vermont Network Against Domestic Violence. They do not provide services, however, they can put you in contact with agencies in Washington County that should be able to help you find an organization in your area that may have services for you.
I further agree you may want to contact an attorney about divorce. Your husband's behavior sounds troubling, if not dangerous. You should not wait to seek out help.