There's so much more that could be said about this. The threats have been against not just me but my son, too, who is in the USAF, to the extent, much higher powers have ordered him to cut off contact with me. He, knowing this is an unlawful order, has refused to do so and he's willing to fight this in a military tribunal.
However, I can't find the appropriate attorney to discuss this with as I'm not sure just what it falls under.
Very few attorneys know anything about military law- me included. My advice is for your son to meet with an attorney in the USAF JAG corps. His discussion with an attorney would be priviledged and he can relate the situation, including the unlawful orders and your suspecions councerning theft of the charitable gifts.