We have tried counseling and I absolutely agree with you. He is her step-father and hasnt legally adopted her. Weve been together for ten years. Are you saying that even WITH divorce he would still be liable? If thats the case I have something to work with at least. Im trying to get her home. Its up to him (and her) not to cause a fiasco
His biggest concern is if she causes damage that could cause loss of house, property, et al. He believes divorce will exempt him from that blow. Ill be liable, but will he. I know he'd have support. I dont think he's thought this through or sought advice appropriately. He's feared because at 60 his hope is he doesnt lose everything hes worked for because of damages incurred by daughter
by support, I mean I realize he'd have to pay support
I take back what I said earlier about your husband's liability. You did not originally mention that she was not your husband's daughter, as well. That changes things a bit, at least for him.
I'm also adding a link to Immigration Law for you, due to your last comment to Ms. Farley.