what if its a hearing? should we go to court if it is? and why should we not post info on the internet? we are very concerend and need help!

Okay, first: I do not understand the significance of "what if its a hearing", what is the "its" in that sentence? The reason for my caution (and of many of the participating attorneys here) is that there is no confidentiality in what you post. I appreciate the concern you and your friend are experiencing-pretty normal. The most effective way for you guys to reduce your stress would be to TALK with one or more local attorneys experience in criminal defense. Most attorneys participating here offer free, if limited, consultations. Gather the paperwork you have and consult with them. You may decide, at the end of that useful form of research, to engage the services of one of them. With respect to this issue in particular there is "information" all over the Internet which will likely result in confusion. Meet and speak privately with counsel, and take two aspirin. Btw, just before sending this I took another look at what had been posted so far. I'm sure my prediction of confusion has already settled in. I suggest you use this site's attorney locator feature to find qualified counsel in your area. Get the names and contact information (review their profile pages) and then get off the Internet altogether and talk in person with suitable attorneys.