Thank you, One more question, I have heard if you get denied for a tourist visa in the end you could get denied for other visa request, is this true. Also to meet in person I would have to go to pakistan or him to come here, what would be the best advice you could give me on that, do you think it would be better if i went there to meet him in person or for him to get a tourist visa and come here. Again thank you for your advice, it i greatly appreciated.

It depends on the other visa request. For example, if he says he wants to come to the U.S. to meet his pen pal, and gets denied, and then claims he wants to come to the U.S. to go to college, they will no doubt suspect he is not really coming for college. But if the next application is consistent with the first there should be no problem. Yes, I think it would be better for you to go meet him.

Thank you