I'm a male. And my girlfriend coworker is a male... My girlfriend was being nice and helped serve dessert out to her coworkers. And this "co-worker" told her to feed me a couple times. He was serious about it.. Isnt that statement a sexual come on because feeding a member of the opposite sex is an intimate act. Im not employed at the same company. My girlfriend was really uncomfortable by this. I want to do something about it. She probably can file a case for me.

AS Kenny Rogers said you gotta know when to hold em and know when to fold em. I agree with Ms. Spencer. Let it ride. Making a complaint can peg your girlfriend as overly sensitive and hurt her career.

Oh . . . I hadn't seen your response to Mr. Madison when I responded to your comment to me.

In the context of serving dessert, "feed me" does not come across as sexual, and whether feeding someone is intimate will vary depending on the situation. It could be a loving gesture or a medical service. If the co-worker said "feed me" three times during one event -- the time your girlfriend served dessert -- that will not be severe or pervasive to constitute unlawful harassment, even if your girlfriend could prove it was a sexual comment.

In this case, it sounds like the co-worker is immature. I suggest your girlfriend create the log I described. If the co-worker says anything stupid again, your girlfriend should tell him to stop talking to her about anything other than work, and she should write that in her log.

One more thing: the comment was not necessarily a sexual come-on. It really, really could be the guy is just stupid or immature. You can help your girlfriend more by encouraging her to stick up for herself and tell stupid co-workers to buzz off. You will not always be around, and she needs to know how to take care of herself.

I'm totally agree with you. Keep the relationship professional.

I'm encouraging her to stick up for herself. I told her to ignore him and show what he did is wrong. I told her that this co-worker cross the line and you have to defend yourself.

She always expects me to do something about it. I want to because I feed disrespect by him and I want to protect myself too.

The only thing I can do is keep a log book about this situation and guide her on how to handle this.

I agree with Mr. Madison. I know you got to pick your battles. And this case i will keep a log book.

It's tough when you know someone is being a jerk, I know, brother. Take care. Kevin

Take care too, Mr. Madison.

Thank you for answering my answer. I appreciate your help.