Thank you for your reply. To be honest I was not even sure I was the father since my ex-wife has had 3 kids from 3 different fathers. I am very happy to finally meet my son. I was not able to locate my ex-wife 14yrs ago since she was an illegal alien in this country and she moved around a lot impossible to locate her. On the other hand I had maintain the same residence and have not moved. She as already set a court date for full legal custody of the child in 2 weeks from today. She claims she needs it to travel with the child abroad. I am willing to help if it will benefit the child my most concern is my son well being. I asked because I want to be sure I am making the right decision in granting her full custody.

Sir with all due respect she has kept your child from you and has alienated him from you. Can you consider this what is best for the child? That being said his age as well as your inaction will work against you. I do not think you should agree to anything until you sit down and consider all your options.
You've lost a lot of time in his life already.

I see your point it is the reason I asked to see what my options would be in this case. It is true what you say and I would prefer to do what is best for the child considering the emotional stress that may cause him to know that his stepfather is not really his biological father. My best bet for now is to sit with a lawyer and see my options. Thanks again.